This is one of the most powerful questions from a coach’s toolbox. Powerful because it removes one of the biggest factors getting in the way of your ability to achieve all you dream of. That is the fear of failure.
More and more is written about how failure is the key to success and a bed of learning but we still hesitate. Many people continue to tread water in fear of what may happen. Moreover, they put their dreams, ideas and desires to the back of their mind and hide. Too often change and transformation which will fulfil and satisfy is avoided rather than pursued.
Could this be you? Don’t worry if it resonates as you are definitely not alone.
As the year races on and we come to the end of yet another month and the first quarter of 2019, what decision could you make today which would fundamentally transform your career and your future? What are you stepping back and hesitating on?
A conversation with your boss about a promotion or pay rise?
A new qualification?
A search for a new job?
A change in team structure?
Going to networking events?
Saying yes to the public speaking opportunity?
Shut your eyes, take a minute and let the dream and action rise to the surface. Allow yourself to come out from behind your safe barrier giving yourself permission to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself the question,‘If I knew I could not fail what decision would I make today to create a career transformation, To give me more of what I want and less of what I don’t want?
Got it? Can you see it? Feel it?
Are you ready to go for it or are anxiety and a plethora of excuses coming into your mind too?
A great strategy to beat the fear of failure is to pour out all the fears you hold around pursuing the dream or the change. Get to the root of what you truly fear or feel anxious about. Equally important is being curious and exploring the stories you have playing in your head. So, now ask ‘what’s the worst that could happen if I decide to go for this?
Visualising failure may feel like a path to doom but it’s not if you are willing to challenge your thinking. Getting closer to your fear of failure will empower you. In essence, it fuels planning and makes you more resourceful.
Additionally, understanding what you fear also gives you the chance to debate your thinking. It allows you to counter your stories around ‘perceived’ failure with a more rational perspective. Even if initially you don’t believe there is any other point of view or end result. It enables you to build up a bank of beliefs which will work for you not against you as you take steps out of your comfort zone.
Author Tim Ferris captures perfectly how we need to deal with our fear in this quote. ‘The goal isn’t to be fearless, the goal is to fear less’.Arming yourself with greater awareness around what you truly want and the stories you are telling yourself is important to driving change. Then using self-leadership strategies such as auditing, debating, planning, talking, meditating, yoga, eating and breathing well will equip you to pursue the path towards transformation. with greater confidence.
In conclusion, you are standing on the potential to transform your career, performance and life. Are you ready to push yourself through your fears?